Category 2: Women he wants to date

This is the single most misinterpreted fact about men that women cannot seem to wrap their heads around, because sex for women is totally opposite.

Most women would never even dream of sleeping with a majority of the different men in their lives and are way more discerning when it comes down to who they will actually sleep with.

This category is exponentially smaller than the first category. Where a man might be open to having sex with 200 women, he may be open to actually dating three.

These are the women who he actually enjoys spending time with, who he finds both physically attractive and mentally stimulating. These are the women who he wants to bring to his office Christmas party, who he can see bringing home to meet his parents, who he wants to explore the world with and make reservations at the cool new restaurant down the street with.

This is where app dating gets really tricky. How can you tell if a guy just wants to sleep with you or if he actually wants to date you? How can you tell if he puts you in Category 1 or Category 2?

If you are a woman who is actually looking for a relationship, these three words will help you discern: close thy legs.

If you are single and want to be in a committed relationship, make it a new rule that you will stop engaging in casual sex with guys who you are dating casually. If you are not looking for a relationship and are just looking to have a good time, stop reading this article, and bookmark it for a few months down the line when you are over this Samantha Jones-inspired phase (no shame, girl).

But, if you are done with getting your heart https://www.swoonbrides.net/sv/jollyromance broken by fuckboys, being ghosted by guys who seemed like “nice guys” and scrutinizing every post-coital text (or lack thereof), screw the “three date rule”and follow your new golden rule: Don’t sleep with him until you are in an exclusive relationship.

At Matchmakers In The City, no sex until exclusivity is literally in our official Dating Guidelines, and every day I open up an email with a new success story of a couple who followed it and is now enjoying a fabulous, committed relationship.

I know that this is probably far from the answer that you want to hear, and I know that we all know that couple who hooked up on the first date and is now raising their fifth kid. But, to quote another great blockbuster, «He’s Just Not That Into You,» this is the exception, not the rule.

It also makes this rule inconvenient because sex is incredible. Sex is amazing. Sex is intimate. Sex is passionate. There are fewer more magical experiences than connecting with another person in such a deep level, and you cannot help yourself but feel incredibly connected to a man after you have sex with him.

They can get that same surge from any other sexual encounter

When women have sex, we release the hormone oxytocin which is the “cuddle” hormone that literally makes us experience feelings of love, happiness and connection.

It was really good for them, but they are not bonded to you based on the fact alone that you had sex. They also release a surge of prolactin and glycogen, which makes them fall asleep.

When men have sex, they release dopamine, which is simply a surge of pleasure

If a guy meets a nice woman who he just doesn’t see long term potential with, he puts her into Category 1, and he will still try to pursue her, but in a much different way than he would pursue a woman in Category 2.